Groovy, my co-worker, is expecting her first baby. How exciting. Because she doesn't know what to expect, she's listening to ever expert and reading the requisite baby material, which is great.

She's getting on my last nerve.

When you're pregnant, it's important to be aware of your environment and what types of foods and chemicals you allow in your body. Developing babies are sensitive. Her caution has turned into neurosis, leaving me to want to slap the living fuck out of her ever other hour. Sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up with all this scientific reasearch and shit. I'm convinced she hovers over her PC in anticipation of the latest newsletter telling her of some shit she shouldn't eat, breathe, or touch. I wanna put her in a bubble and feed her through a tube. I find it interesting she thinks I had choices about what I ate. It was either eat what's here, during the times there was something available, or eat nothing at all. Unfortunately, the latter was the norm.

Next comes the questions of "When you were pregnant, did you..." Hayle nawl I didn't. When I was pregnant at 15 and 18, pregnancies wern't celebrated by anyone and our pregnancies (hers and mine) were under very different circumstances.

Me: Young and unsure of myself, not knowing what to do with my life. No direction. Young and black. Burden to society. Not educated (enough). Just trying to survive. No, I didn't reasearch car seats for safety ratings, being that I didn't have a car, and to this day, I still don't have a car. Safety ratings don't mean shit. No I didn't buy bouncer seats or swings, playpens or baby gyms. I was my baby's playpen and gym.

Her: Early 30's, master's degree, interested in politics and world events. Married. Liberal. Goofy, but not in a bad way. Trained school teacher, program manager by choice. Agonizes over every minute detail bout this child.

Now, because she's so concerned bout these insignificant things (IMO), I decided to ask her what she did have for her baby. Don't quite recall what she said, but I do know what she didin't say: pampers, socks, undershirts, bunting, sleepwear, bottles...all the essential shit. What's wrong with this picture?

I'm happy for her and do believe she'll make a good mother. She's idealistic, but doesn't realize it. Her pregnancy isn't my pregnancy. We live on two opposite ends of the social scale where my pregnancies of women of my caliber are suppressed and viewed as failure, while hers are celebrated and encouraged. She asks, "Kia, do you plan on having more kids?" Bitch is you dumb? The last thing I need is another person to suck up the rest of my income.

I remember when a friend and I went to the same doctor for the same reason, damn near within the same week. This doctor recommended, damn near demanded I go on birth control, while my friend was given literature and was told to think it over. I see it as population control for blacks. What else could it be? She and I had the same identical problem. Why is birth control pushed on me, but is only an option for her?

15.September.2004    04:47 PM     Commments: 8

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She asks, "Kia, do you plan on having more kids?" Bitch is you dumb? The last thing I need is another person to suck up the rest of my income.


posted by Antonio G | 09.15.04 06:44 PM


Am I right to assume that Groovy do you say...White? I don't get that shit either; there's two pregnant women here (one Black, one White) and I swear it's like night and day how they get treated. White chick gets to act a bitch and blame it on her pregnancy; Black chick acts up and all of a sudden, she's a "problem". Sheesh.

posted by karsh | 09.15.04 08:03 PM


Of course she's white. That's why I didn't bother to mention it.

posted by ~SunRay~ | 09.15.04 08:04 PM


and i bet that any attempt to try to explain this stuff to her will be met with deaf ears. happens too many times to mention. unfortunately it's becoming more commonplace in the deep south to have a baby when you first hit puberty. *sigh*

posted by ej | 09.16.04 04:43 AM


I'm happy that you pointed out how birth control is forced on black women and given as an option to white women. Because of this, more black women suffer from gynecological issues (fibroids, hysterectomy) that stem from the years of forced birth control. I'll do the condom thing, but no pills or injected contraction for me. 10 years on pills was enough for me until I wisened up and stopped popping those shyts everyday. I'm now 31 y/o, no kids and small fibroids developing that could lead to who knows what in the future?

Great post, SunRay!

posted by MsThing | 09.16.04 09:38 AM


Damn.. the pinks are on a roll these dayz.. i'd avoid her ass like the plague.. and u know its only goinna get worse once she has the baby.. making everybody look @ the pics n shit.. and listen to stories about how "great and smart" the baby is.. blah blah blah blah blah

posted by Pam - Reddy | 09.17.04 11:40 PM


*DEAD8 @ Bitch is you dumb?!?

posted by Monkie | 09.18.04 12:54 AM


i knew your friend that went to the doctor when you went was white that's a shame for the doctor to suggest her getting on pills -- racism will forever exist.

you are absolutely correct on "dont' needing another breathing soul to suck up my income"

you will have to tell your co-worker how to change a diaper and what medicine u used and some more shit.

posted by Lashundra | 09.22.04 03:49 PM


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